Take 2

Sigh.

I had all of these good intentions. I was going to blog regularly. Really, I was. I used to be so good at this when I was in university. I have several volumes of reflective life stuff from those days, frequently over-written and bathetic, but still it is a good record of my life at the time.

I wanted to create a similar record here. So much of my life has changed: a move from San Francisco to Toronto area, an entirely new career, a new husband and a ready-made family of two teenage boys. I moved 3,000 miles to be with a guy I met on the internet and son of a gun if he didn't turn out to be the love of my life! That romance is fairly well documented through email and Yahoo! message records, but since I have arrived in Canada, my life has gone largely unrecorded.

Time to reflect.

Part one: Moving to Canada

This wasn't nearly as hard as one might expect. Well, except for the part about leaving the city I love beyond all others and all my friends and family.... Still, I had separated from my partner of 17 years and I knew that I was overdue for a major change in my life. I was miserable in my job ( selling print services) and had no idea of how I was going to afford the mortgage on my two bedroom house in the Glen Park area of San Francisco.

Then I met Grant. Once we realized that what we were feeling was real and not an internet fantasy it became increasingly obvious to me that I was going to have to consider a move. He had two sons aged 13 and 15. I couldn't ask him to leave his kids behind to be with me. To be honest, I don't think I could love a man that would have been willing to do that. If Grant and I were to be together it would mean only one thing: I was going to have to relocate.

My ex and I sold our house for a ridiculous amount of money and split it down the middle. I put all my stuff into storage and boarded a plane for Toronto. Over the next year, I returned to the states often enough to maintain my visitor status while living with Grant and his boys. At the end of the year, he asked me to marry him.

I said "Yes!"

To be continued...